...for a different kind of girl

silent surburban girl releasing her voice, not yet knowing what all she wants to say about her life and the things that make it spin. do you have to be 18 to be here? you'll know when i know.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

pop quiz, hot shot

What kind of person keeps two strollers, five car seats and a portable crib almost 10 years after last giving birth? Is it:

(A) someone incredibly lazy with a tendency to think 'out of sight, out of mind'?

(B) someone so afraid of being murdered by a craigslist respondent that it took days of gentle prodding by her visiting sister for her to get her act together so said visiting sister could post said items up in hopes of making a few easy bucks because seriously, how much could a used car seat really net?

(C) someone whose desire for a third (a fourth, really, if truth be told) baby bloomed almost instantly upon last giving birth nearly 10 years ago and has never once waned, who physically aches for another baby and who, though she's (finally)(no murder! no murder!) posted said items for sale and has perhaps resigned herself to a marriage that can't even be adequately described of late (where 'late' means 'three years'), is not at all willingly able to give up the ghost because that someone has had a tendency to get her hopes up when words like "Maybe," and "It's not that I don't necessarily want that, too..." were said because sometimes people just can't come out and say "No," but ha ha ha, guess what, sucker, it ain't gonna happen, in which case, oh boy, you should see how many Rubbermaid totes filled with infant and toddler clothes are filling someone's basement and talk about the room that will free up when someone tosses those out in a fit of sadness. See also:

(D) someone who quickly gushed her best wishes when her best friend informed her three years ago that she was expecting her third child, then pretended there was something in her eye when she had to quickly excuse herself to go cry in the questionable stall of the school bathroom she escaped to (and you'll do it again a couple years later, someone, when said best friend shares the exciting news about baby number four...)

When in doubt, always go with C. And also D.

Someone sometimes feels so damn pathetic...



Blogger Craig said...


You know I'm with you, in whatever ways I can be. . .

Sunday, July 17, 2011 5:46:00 PM  
Blogger Bijoux said...

Well, I knew it was C because that was the longest answer and there's a psychology behind that.

Love you, FADKOG.....

Sunday, July 17, 2011 6:03:00 PM  
Blogger Lisa @ Lisa Moves said...

I'm sorry :( ((Hugs))

Sunday, July 17, 2011 7:18:00 PM  
Blogger Melissa said...

Bleurgh. Sorry, sweetie. Closing that door (or even moving the car seat that's been propping it open) sucks donkey balls.

Sunday, July 17, 2011 7:37:00 PM  
Blogger Sailor said...

Sorry, *Hugggs*, here for you however can be...

Sunday, July 17, 2011 10:37:00 PM  
Blogger SFD said...

We're "done" for medical reasons, but we're not "done", if that makes any sense. We've started the painful process of purging that stuff too; it's no fun.

Monday, July 18, 2011 4:16:00 AM  
Blogger Possum said...

I cant imagine what it must feel like to have that door closed since its a door that has never been opened for me. I know what that feels like but it cant be as bad as what you are feeling.

That is one fine lawn you have there :)

Monday, July 18, 2011 6:16:00 AM  
Blogger Leslie said...

I see the stuff hiding behind the stuff and ... yeah. I get how hard it is to write those few words hiding because the other words. And I get that you have to hide them because they are the ones that are hardest to write.

Monday, July 18, 2011 6:22:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My wife's excuse? "I'm saving it for the grandkids!"

Yah, right. That's why we have ALL the Disney movies. On VHS tape.

Know why guys say "Maybe" and "It's not that I'm against the idea of another child . . ." ? Cuz there's sex involved in getting to the end result. Guys rarely, if ever, pass on a chance to secure a little future nooky. I once promised to look into reversing my vasectomy. Wasn't gonna happen, but I got me some that night!

Monday, July 18, 2011 11:11:00 AM  
Blogger Craig said...

And just for the sake of saying so, there's a whole different set of, um, stuff that attaches to those who get rid of all their baby stuff after their fifth child, only to find that they need it back for Nos. 6-7-8. . .

Monday, July 18, 2011 11:16:00 AM  
Anonymous FTN said...

You managed to get 171 words in that sentence in the fourth paragraph. That may be a record, even for you.

Monday, July 18, 2011 2:27:00 PM  
Blogger Anna Whiston-Donaldson said...

I know, sweetie, I know...

Monday, July 18, 2011 7:32:00 PM  
Blogger lime said...

it's that very last sentence that gets me. please be gentle with yourself. if you won't, who will? it's a tangible end of a dream and you are allowed to mourn that. it's not pathetic. it just is what it is. don't beat yourself up.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011 9:42:00 AM  
Blogger Homemaker Man said...

I agree with Lime. I've been close to a lot of pathetic people, and with your honesty and strength in the face of sadness, you ain't one of them.

Also you're talented and all that good stuff too.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011 11:23:00 PM  
Blogger Melissa @ I Pick Pretty said...

I'm so sorry, friend. Like one of the wise commenters above mentioned, it's ok to mourn a dream that has passed.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011 8:04:00 PM  
Blogger Kevin McKeever said...

Maybe you could start a bus service for toddlers?

Then I quote Mary from TV's "In Plain Sight" -- "Kids -- I don't see the upside."

Be well, FADKOG.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011 9:51:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tons of hugs for you.

Thursday, July 21, 2011 11:11:00 AM  
Blogger 1blueshi1 said...

Yeah, I'm with ya...after my divorce when I met The Guy, much older than I and no kids, I just expected that he would want at least one...and then of course what USUALLY happens when you assume ran up and nipped a chunk out of my arse...no baby here, either. Let's consume chocolate together!

Thursday, July 21, 2011 11:13:00 AM  
Blogger Pgoodness said...

I was going with A, B, C & D

My storage unit and basement have a lot of those same things. Even though I've said I'm done, I can't get rid of them for some reason.


Friday, July 22, 2011 11:12:00 AM  
Blogger Salviano Adão said...

MUITO BOM! Eu acredito que Deus criou o homem e deixou o manual de instrução, a “BÍBLIA SAGRADA!” A bíblia é a divina revelação da palavra de Deus e não produtos enlatados, eu costumo dizer que: “As pessoas precisam parar de comer tudo o que dão. E começar a questionar! ” Alguém escuta alguma coisa de alguém, e saem falando, sem questionar, sem saber se é verdade ou não. As pessoas precisam se perguntar! Será que a minha crença esta de acordo com a lei de Deus? Será que a religião que eu nasci sempre me falou a verdade? Quando uma pessoa morre pra onde ela vai? Ela volta? A bíblia apóia o homossexualismo? Quem não herdara o reino de Deus? O que devo saber sobre idolatria, imagens e escultura? O que devo saber sobre o único batismo? Será que tem uma seqüência para salvação? A quem eu devo me confessar, quem pode me perdoar? Religião salva alguém? Essas e outras perguntas e respostas em:
Você pode dizer, eu já sou salvo amém! Vamos atrás de quem não esta, “Se você quer se dar bem com o mundo seja hipócrita, mas se você quer se dar bem com Deu seja verdadeiro!” divulgue este site, porque: “Eis que vêm dias, diz o Senhor Jeová, em que enviarei fome sobre a terra, não fome de pão, nem sede de água, mas de ouvir as palavras do Senhor. E irão vagabundos de um mar até outro mar, e do norte até ao oriente; correrão por toda parte, buscando a palavra do Senhor, e não a acharão." ( Amós cap 8 ver 11 e 12 )Fale para outras pessoas, por que “O Senhor não retarda a sua promessa, ainda que alguns têm por tardia: mas é longânimo para convosco, não querendo que alguns se percam, senão que todos venham a arrepender-se.” (II Pedro cap. 3 ver 8) e “Que quer que todos os homens se salvem, e venham ao conhecimento da verdade. Porque há um só Deus, e um só Mediador entre Deus e os homens, Jesus Cristo o homem. (I A Timóteo cap 2 ver 5 e 6)
Seja sua bíblia, católica ou evangélica, aqui você vai tirar suas duvidas.
E conhecereis a verdade, e a verdade vos libertara (João cap 8 ver 32) Se você tiver coragem de perguntar, a bíblia terá coragem de responder!

Friday, July 22, 2011 8:54:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I always wanted more but circumstances wouldn't allow. Different circumstances but painful nonetheless. Tried the 'saving them for the grandkids' thing but after time that doesn't fly.

Hugs to you ...

Saturday, July 23, 2011 9:19:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You could use some help from me. I throw out my kids old stuff and strollers so quickly sometimes the kids are still in them. Find out other stupid, offensive and blatantly illegal things I do with my kids at www.maddadzblog.com

Friday, July 29, 2011 12:00:00 PM  
Blogger the weirdgirl said...

Oh hon, how I know this! We finally had the garage sale last month that we'd been planning since the previous year. But back last summer the sale wasn't going to include the baby stuff and this year it did. I started to write a post but I got really weepy and erased it. You are very brave, you know. Big hugs my dear.

Saturday, July 30, 2011 8:11:00 PM  
Blogger TwoBusy said...


I'm standing by and ready to deliver any/all at your behest.

Sunday, August 07, 2011 10:10:00 AM  
Blogger for a different kind of girl said...

I owe all of you giant words of thanks, including even Salviano up there, perhaps, but I'm not sure translating his words wouldn't result in some kind of hex being put on me, so...


Thank you, all, a million times over. I need to and should personally thank all of you, but this subject makes me cry like the baby I want, and I have (and no doubt will again) wept about this so much that I'm dehydrated, and in case yo didn't know, I live in a very humid, hot place right now and I can't bear to lose more moisture. That's why I won't offer to hug any of you, either, even though I want to give all of you one. I'm sweaty, and that's just gross.

You all are awesome...and if you need a stroller, those damn things are still in the shed.

Thursday, August 11, 2011 4:47:00 PM  

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